1. Was it a mistake?
Trying to reflect on the relationship to understand what went wrong or to place blames can be counter-productive as the very thought of it will bring memories you would rather stash away and according to psychologists, every time you bring back a memory, you make it more difficult to be forgotten. It was not a mistake; it was an experience to make you a better person.
2. Why me? Why is life so hard to me?
Pondering over your past relationships with a self-pity attitude is not good for you; it only makes the breakup even more painful. The best way to handle it is to develop an attitude of “there is a way out for better things”. It works and dissipates negative energy and channels it into doing something useful
3. Who is the new person in her/her life?
Never discuss about your ex new girlfriend or boyfriend. The instinct to inquire further will further deepen the emotional breakdown. It is best your leave them to their sh*t.
4. Can we still be friends?
You can never be friends with someone who you see as being responsible for your emotional bruises. Seeing him/her will be reminding you of the intimate past and once the emotions takes over, it can affect you mood and everything. There was a reason it is called “EX”.
5. Am I too emotional?
It is part of been a human being that you possess some emotions. Being over emotional is not comfortable but the right partner for you is the one who understands your emotions and manage it well. Therefore don’t make them less human by thinking they should care less about your emotions.
6. I should have known
No one knows what to expect in a relationship when two different souls comes together and that is ironically the spice of any relationship, exploring and knowing about your partner should be a relationship-long duty. If you had already known, where is the fun in it? The best is to expect good and work towards it, if it didn’t work out, yo learn a lesson and move on
7. Such is life
No, such is not life. What brought you into relationship initially must have been a picture of couples having a great time together, so if they can have it, so can you WITH THE RIGHT PERSON. Maybe he/she was not the right person, see the brighter side
8. How long will I keep crying?
Counting the days of crying is a wrong way of handling the moving on process. Do not set any borders. Continue doing your normal activities and be more expressive about your activities to everyone you meet.
9. How long should I stay before I start a new relationship?
You never set the time for the last relationship so why set the time for the future relationship, just live your life and good things will come out of anywhere even from places you never imagined
10. How will people see me now?
Who the hell cares, 70% of couples and singles out there have gone through the breakup process and it is funny when they are the ones with the most tips and advices. It happens, brush up and move on.
Sometimes I wonder if there is a truthful relationship because everyday people break up and get hurt.
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